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Relationships – General

Atypical Love compiled by Alice Wiley and Emma Robdale (Book)

Love in a F**cked Up World: How to Build Relationships, Hook Up, and Raise Hell Together by Dean Spade – From trans activist Dean Spade comes a practical manifesto for how to live out your radical political values in your intimate relationships (Book)

How Black Matriarchies defined Polyamory as Structure, Not Sexuality -Lovette Jallow (Article)

Sex

Ought: the Journal of Autistic Culture Volume 4 Issue 1: Sexuality

Come Together: The Science (and Art!) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections by Autistic sex educator and researcher Emily Nagoski

The Surprising Science of Lasting Sexual Connection: An Interview with Emily Nagoski (Podcast with transcript)

“Comforting, Reassuring, and…Hot”: A Qualitative Exploration of Engaging in Bondage, Discipline, Domination, Submission, Sadism and (Sado)masochism and Kink from the Perspective of Autistic Adults – Research article by Amy Pearson and Sophie Hodgetts

Content Warning: Resources below relate to partner violence and abuse, which may be helpful to some but triggering for others.

Relationship Safety

Find a Helpline is a global directory that can enable you find help if you are in an abusive relationship.

The Autistic Guide to Healthy Relationships can help you recognise if you are in a healthy relationship or not

Amy Pearson has published various research papers on partner violence and abuse

Safeguarding Autistic Girls: Strategies for Professionals – Carly Jones (Book)

The Aspie Girl’s Guide to Being Safe with Men: The Unwritten Safety Rules No-one is Telling You by Debi Brown (Book)

Men Who Hate Women by Laura Bates – From incels to pickup artists, the truth about extreme misogyny and how it affects us all

UK

Refuge – support for those experiencing or who have experienced domestic abuse (including people of all genders)

Womens Aid – help for those in abusive relationships, and help to recognise if you are in an abusive relationship, via helplines (there are different helplines for each area of the UK), webchat, email and a forum. They can also help you prepare a safety plan in case you need to leave a relationship.